Introduction to Self-Esteem

“Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your handbrake on.”
-Maxwell Maltz

First off, let’s define what self-esteem is. For this, we will call upon the maestro himself, Google.

So, upon doing a quick google search, we find out that self-esteem can be defined as “confidence in one’s own worth or abilities”.

Now, I can tell you from experience that, in life, not having confidence in your own abilities is one of the most sure-fire ways of leading a miserable life.

For example, consider John.

John is a 28-year-old financial analyst who works at a typical 9 to 5 in a large firm.

Now, even though John is a very hard-working employee, he hasn’t been promoted for a long time. This is due to the fact that John, becomes very nervous before any presentation or meeting and hence draws the illusion that he is unsure of what he is conveying which causes John’s boss to ultimately reject John’s work.

John is very critical of himself, every time someone compliments John for his efforts, he follows it up with a negative statement such as “Oh, I am far from being good” or “No, my work is bad.”

Also, before every meeting, John slaps himself with a negative statement like “Don’t screw this one up as well.”

Always thinks that he is inferior compared to his peers.

Blames his luck for his circumstances.

As you can probably figure out, from this, we are absolutely certain that John suffers from low self-esteem.

Now, let’s see what are the characteristics of low self-esteem

  • Extremely critical of themselves
  • Ignores positive comments or feedback
  • Have an inferiority complex
  • Use negative words
  • Have a victim like personality
  • Blame luck for their conditions
  • Ignores their good qualities and only focus on their bad ones

That’s it for today, hope you learned something about self-esteem.

Stay tuned as we will tell you a few tricks to help you immediately cope with this problem.

Thanks for reading!

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